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It seems like I haven't been on here in a while to complain, or talk, or discuss what is going on in my life. If you have read my last post, you would have noticed my thoughts and feeling about friendship, or the lack there of in my life. I also, mentioned my wife, and i thought it would be a good idea to talk a little bit more about her.
Lets start at the beginning. In September of 2010, i met my wife, then girlfriend, Abby. We met through mutual friends and went on a double date to Chili's. We chatted a couple times through texting. Right before then, i was seeing another girl who went to my high school, and also ended up at my college, but after hanging out a couple of times, i just didn't feel like i clicked well with her. I ended the "relationship,' with her in a really shitty way, by telling her it wouldn't work out while playing a N64 in my dorm room. It was really shitty, and being more mature now, i wish i could have done it differently.
Even before talking about my wife further, i think it is important to talk about who i was as a boyfriend. I do not consider myself a "looker," in any sense of the word. I'm awkward, i'm on the huskier side, and i was a nerd. I mean i used to wear these really awful vinyl dragon shirts to school in the 90s', when it wasn't even cool any more. My longest relationship before being with my wife was about 3 months. I considered myself pretty lucky, even though i didn't consider myself good looking, in any sense of the word, i still ended up having a good amount of girlfriends both in middle school in high school and eventually in college. One girl in particular, for the sake of anonymity lets call her Shelia, i only went out with her for a couple of weeks, because i kept calling her, her friends name, which for anonymity lets say Heather, because Heather and I were in the same history class in high school. I think she was too good for me anyway, she was the wicked creative type who will some day be an artistic icon. Another girl, lets call her Alex, was waaaayyy out of my league. She was this really beautiful scene girl, with the big hair and tons of tattoos. She was the first person to show me my now favorite band, Every Time I Die. I dated her for a couple of months before ruining that too. Finally, there was this girl from central California. I found one of my close friends from elementary school through MySpace and went to go visit him. I started to talk with one of his friends and then we started to date. We were a couple of hours away, and as much, were on and off again for a couple of years in middle school and high school. Needless to say, i wasn't the best boyfriend. I was pretty selfish, and just not as open as i could have been.
Back to Abby. One of my earliest memories of talking with her is one night, i think it was on Halloween or during Halloween, we were texting about Rocky Horror Picture Show. I knew its cult status and knew what impact it had on popular culture as a whole, but she was watching the lame version on Glee with one of her best friends. Abby was not someone who i considered my type. She has no tattoos (when i met her), she was pretty timid, and shy, but we ended up being RAs together on the same staff. We dated for 3 years before i decided to propose to her.
I knew i wanted it to be a memorable moment for her. I came up with this crazy plan to ask her to marry me during graduation. I worked with one of our friends, Lianne, and went through all the right channels to make sure that it would be approved. I never really got an approval, but i got the ok to day it. I purchased the ring with financial aid money that i saved up, thanks the great state of California, and waited. I also knew i wanted to get Abby's mom there for the proposal. After talking with Abby's brother in like September, and Abby's mom in November, I sent Abby's dad an email in early Spring asking to have lunch with him. If you know Abby's dad, he is not the typical father in law stereo type. He is kind, willing to help everyone out, and is personable. I lied to Abby, saying i had a training with a student group that i was a part of, and drove down to Abby dad's work. We had lunch and i asked him if i could marry Abby. When asking him, all i could think in my head was, "what if he says no?" I knew it was a small chance of that happening, and to no one's surprise, he said of course i would love you to be a part of the family. So i coordinated with Abby's mom, who at the time lived in Ohio to come to graduation, and on the day of, got the ring from Lianne. Walked the stage and proposed to her at the same time. If you know me, ask to see the video and i will show it to you anytime.
Anyway, we have been married for a year and a half now and a lot hasn't changed from that first date. Yes we are both more mature and more comfortable in our skin, but our relationship hasn't changed much, and i think that is awesome. We both still get on each other's nerves, we both still poke fun at each other, but most of all, we both couldn't see ourselves with anyone else. Through all of my relationship experiences, i never thought that would be something i would say out loud. My wife and I are finally in a place where we are starting to talk about expanding our family, and while that is scary, and i will never be ready, there really isn't anyone else i would do it with.
This month music video is "Uneasy Hearts Way the Most," by Dance Gavin Dance. I have really been on a Dance Gavin Dance kick lately. This song is just really sensual and reminds me of one of my friends from high school who I was really close with until we had a falling out, which was totally my fault. In the song, you can just totally tell that the boy in the video is just genuinely in love with the girl he is talking about. Thinking about my relationship, I just feel like whether we are on a drive or spending any time together at all, I love my wife unconditionally and with my whole heart.
It seems like I haven't been on here in a while to complain, or talk, or discuss what is going on in my life. If you have read my last post, you would have noticed my thoughts and feeling about friendship, or the lack there of in my life. I also, mentioned my wife, and i thought it would be a good idea to talk a little bit more about her.
Lets start at the beginning. In September of 2010, i met my wife, then girlfriend, Abby. We met through mutual friends and went on a double date to Chili's. We chatted a couple times through texting. Right before then, i was seeing another girl who went to my high school, and also ended up at my college, but after hanging out a couple of times, i just didn't feel like i clicked well with her. I ended the "relationship,' with her in a really shitty way, by telling her it wouldn't work out while playing a N64 in my dorm room. It was really shitty, and being more mature now, i wish i could have done it differently.
Even before talking about my wife further, i think it is important to talk about who i was as a boyfriend. I do not consider myself a "looker," in any sense of the word. I'm awkward, i'm on the huskier side, and i was a nerd. I mean i used to wear these really awful vinyl dragon shirts to school in the 90s', when it wasn't even cool any more. My longest relationship before being with my wife was about 3 months. I considered myself pretty lucky, even though i didn't consider myself good looking, in any sense of the word, i still ended up having a good amount of girlfriends both in middle school in high school and eventually in college. One girl in particular, for the sake of anonymity lets call her Shelia, i only went out with her for a couple of weeks, because i kept calling her, her friends name, which for anonymity lets say Heather, because Heather and I were in the same history class in high school. I think she was too good for me anyway, she was the wicked creative type who will some day be an artistic icon. Another girl, lets call her Alex, was waaaayyy out of my league. She was this really beautiful scene girl, with the big hair and tons of tattoos. She was the first person to show me my now favorite band, Every Time I Die. I dated her for a couple of months before ruining that too. Finally, there was this girl from central California. I found one of my close friends from elementary school through MySpace and went to go visit him. I started to talk with one of his friends and then we started to date. We were a couple of hours away, and as much, were on and off again for a couple of years in middle school and high school. Needless to say, i wasn't the best boyfriend. I was pretty selfish, and just not as open as i could have been.
Back to Abby. One of my earliest memories of talking with her is one night, i think it was on Halloween or during Halloween, we were texting about Rocky Horror Picture Show. I knew its cult status and knew what impact it had on popular culture as a whole, but she was watching the lame version on Glee with one of her best friends. Abby was not someone who i considered my type. She has no tattoos (when i met her), she was pretty timid, and shy, but we ended up being RAs together on the same staff. We dated for 3 years before i decided to propose to her.
I knew i wanted it to be a memorable moment for her. I came up with this crazy plan to ask her to marry me during graduation. I worked with one of our friends, Lianne, and went through all the right channels to make sure that it would be approved. I never really got an approval, but i got the ok to day it. I purchased the ring with financial aid money that i saved up, thanks the great state of California, and waited. I also knew i wanted to get Abby's mom there for the proposal. After talking with Abby's brother in like September, and Abby's mom in November, I sent Abby's dad an email in early Spring asking to have lunch with him. If you know Abby's dad, he is not the typical father in law stereo type. He is kind, willing to help everyone out, and is personable. I lied to Abby, saying i had a training with a student group that i was a part of, and drove down to Abby dad's work. We had lunch and i asked him if i could marry Abby. When asking him, all i could think in my head was, "what if he says no?" I knew it was a small chance of that happening, and to no one's surprise, he said of course i would love you to be a part of the family. So i coordinated with Abby's mom, who at the time lived in Ohio to come to graduation, and on the day of, got the ring from Lianne. Walked the stage and proposed to her at the same time. If you know me, ask to see the video and i will show it to you anytime.
Anyway, we have been married for a year and a half now and a lot hasn't changed from that first date. Yes we are both more mature and more comfortable in our skin, but our relationship hasn't changed much, and i think that is awesome. We both still get on each other's nerves, we both still poke fun at each other, but most of all, we both couldn't see ourselves with anyone else. Through all of my relationship experiences, i never thought that would be something i would say out loud. My wife and I are finally in a place where we are starting to talk about expanding our family, and while that is scary, and i will never be ready, there really isn't anyone else i would do it with.
This month music video is "Uneasy Hearts Way the Most," by Dance Gavin Dance. I have really been on a Dance Gavin Dance kick lately. This song is just really sensual and reminds me of one of my friends from high school who I was really close with until we had a falling out, which was totally my fault. In the song, you can just totally tell that the boy in the video is just genuinely in love with the girl he is talking about. Thinking about my relationship, I just feel like whether we are on a drive or spending any time together at all, I love my wife unconditionally and with my whole heart.
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